Blame

Re-watching Over Drive inspired me to train and join the bike team. I remember wanting to get a nice bike because of that series when I first came to university, but I didn’t care enough and I let my parents pick some really weird mix between a cruiser and mountain bike. It’s easy to blame them and the Wal-Mart bike for my lack of motivation to join any clubs that first year, but in the end it’s really because I didn’t care, and they took advantage of that. Again, I say “take advantage” in the value neutral sense – they’re cheap as heck on everything, so it’s only natural that when I don’t push or assert myself in a certain direction, they’ll do it themselves. You can’t blame people if you don’t fight them. And if you do fight them, you still can’t blame them. Blaming is the mindset of those who are neither quitters nor winners. When I pushed myself as this year began, I came home for the summer significantly changed. When I asked my mom to buy me a 2 month pass to the local gym so I could continue training for the summer, she just went ahead and bought the year pass. And I didn’t fail to use that pass: 3 times a week, 3 hours each session. Same with my computer: I just told my parents that I wanted a good machine and it would be up to 1/3 cheaper if I built it myself (this is actually true at higher spec parts), and I’d use all my own money. They didn’t do anything. They probably minded a lot, but I just got it anyways. It’s not a function or matter of rebelliousness. It’s not a matter of showing proof. It’s a combination of both – showing that I was both confident and capable that I could take care of my own stuff in that area.

I believe that may be how you beat those who say ‘quit while you are ahead’. Just keep showing them that you will always be ahead.

This is of course for those situations where you cannot avoid them. Avoiding them is the optimal solution.

To be sure, I don’t like my parents. I despise socialists and government in general. I will never truly forgive those who make others believe that what they have or what they’re doing is “good enough”, when the person in question thirsts for more. They all “just want to be happy”. Or “just want to be safe”. “Just want X”. “After this, I’m done”. “Quit while you are ahead”. Same idea different words. I would call it the gambling mentality, but these kinds of people don’t want to risk anything, and gamblers either keep winning (until they get the boot) or they keep losing. I need a word for this kind of crap mentality.

Parents should support what their kids want, I think. If they place obstacles or help train or discipline their child to become more efficient at obtaining what they want, I believe that is okay. What is not okay is seriously hoping and seriously placing obstacles to form some kind protective wall. First of all, there is no wall that withstands time. One day, that wall will be eroded, and that child will find himself an old man or herself an old woman, never having lived. Second, and this item really should be the first: it is a very bold thing to do; claiming to know what’s best for someone else. Probabilistically speaking, you’ll always be wrong. Any particular section that is walled off will always be infinitely smaller than the sum of all the areas outside of it. This holds true for all times, all places, and all situations. It doesn’t matter how developed a civilization is. You’ll always learn something new. To argue that “So I shouldn’t prevent a child from wandering into the middle of a road?” ignores the fact that most situations in life do not involve wandering, or roads, much less the two things combined. If you’re homeless and you live on the streets then maybe it’s a big deal and asking the question as a rebuttal makes sense. But you’re on the internet. This is an obscure blog. You probably have better things to worry about than a kid wandering into a road if you’re thinking about childraising as a whole.

I think they’re wrong in putting up those barriers, but I don’t share too much sympathy with those who fail at fighting those planted artificial obstacles. Though I lack a coherent explanation for it, when you live in a land of abundance and you’re one of the fuckers who think you should quit while you are ahead, you really don’t try very hard. At anything. These people don’t budge by definition, but the amount of force required to remove them in some way is really not anywhere near the amount that’s needed for real competition. While it is unfortunate, it will happen, and I do not mind too much those who do not survive. If they get lulled into the rotting belief system, there is nothing I can do to save them, and thus, there is no need to pity them.

“I have no sympathy for a man who can’t put himself through uncomfortable situations to get what he truly wants. If he can’t do this for himself, he doesn’t deserve the sympathy of those who did go through the hardship, pain, and discomfort.”

– Roosh V, Bang

I will be putting bike training stats from the thingie attached to the machine every day from now on. Since I am posting music every day already, I will simply include them in the same entry.

I plan to save up and get a better bike by the time the year rolls around.

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